The art of treating problems
When faced with human thing to stop him from reaching his goal or achieve what is desired or object towards his dreams and aspirations ..
It feels there is a problem or obstacle causes him stress and frustrationWhen increasing competition and rivalry, conflict and control concepts and material values and the decline of spiritual values and religious and moral .. Double trouble people and increasing aggression and mutual bickering .. And people fall on some of their concerns .. And there is an urgent need to learn the methods of restraint and control of emotions and to acquire skills, problem solving and negotiationAlone represent a therapeutic ways to control self and self-control ..And the acquisition of calm and stability and avoid frivolity, anger, and foolish behavior that may cost the individual losses are endless .. Consequently, privacy has an important role in avoiding problems and avoid complications and to prepare the individual to face a correct scientific wayThrough training sessions alone with the individual treatment can be adjusted from the wrong ideas and interactions that precede the face of various problems .. Valastrecha mental, spiritual, and expulsion or obstruction distorted thoughts, fears and emotional exaggerations and instill positive values and concepts of tolerance and forgiveness and renounce the anger and emotional stability ..Also, the simulation behaviors and attitudes of the Prophet peace be upon him and his companions, and how to treat such situations - see self-assertion - the person can be amended and that simulates the responses of those great mental strength and to pass these difficult tests with skill and confidence and stabilityA person who suffers from the speed of emotional arousal and anger that he instills in his mind and constantly repeats the verse: "Vaaf forgive them and God loves those who do good" (Table 13)."Push the one that is better if the enmity between you and him like a friend and intimate" (separated 34). "The one who is patient and forgives, that the determination of things" (Shura 43)I have asked some patients who suffer from social phobia) Fear of social situations) and to avoid people as a result of extreme sensitivity to criticism and fear that give them any kind of harassment or abuse .. Repetition of the Hadith"The believer who mixes with people and patient with the best of the persecuted believer who mixes with people and do not put up with annoyance." (Cited in al-Tirmidhi and Ahmad in his Musnad, "and Al-Bukhari in the literatureAnd start identifying the main problem and the limited information about them .. And isolated from other secondary problems .. Try to understand well how the problem arose .. What is your role in real ..And use the diary to write down this information .. Then comes the stage of formulating hypotheses .. Namely, the possible solutions that occur to your mind .. Then write it in diary .. The front of each proposal to impose a solution or write pros and cons .. After that, the weak hypotheses and solutions .. Then start the best solutions to this experience on the ground and test the effectiveness .. You should be aware that the solution to any problem that needs to include the gains and losses .. Should also be aware of the need to break up the forces that are causing you the problem in the sense that opponents do not collect against you .. But if you can penetrate that intelligently links their act together they have succeeded in breaking the problem into parts easy to handleIf the first solution does not fix .. Record has its advantages and disadvantages, and turn to the second solution, and soTherapeutic and being alone gives the mind a net sees the problem and analyzes their causes carefully so that it can deal with the problem without bursts of reckless or foolish emotions disrupt the proper mindset .. They also neutralize feelings of anger and win the individual stability and calm, one of the many factors that affect access to good solutions. And innovativeAnd the psychological distress and attitudes before the crisis he knew senior politicians and their practices under different names ..During the retreat could be the person (the work of rehearsal) experience to his role on the stage of the exercise by the factThere are several commands and concepts that can benefit a person in such situations:Respect for the opponent and avoid using words or hints of prey help much in solving the problem and the lack of complexitySelf-confidence and meet your gaze opponent without provocation and without shaking or reactTo sit quietly and consistentlyPrefer to wait until you hear the other point of view a fullSurprised when a battle or attack him I'm not ready do not make your focus is on the subject of discussion but the angry person to declare himself firmly with the feeling that the discussion will not reach a conclusion .. You can withdraw the pretext of verification of information or speech that asked .. Or under the pretext of studying the subjectThere is also a way of questioning the negative .. When the problem is with the President or someone important in your life and do not want to lose .. And that it recognizes that there is an error, then show your willingness to fix it .. And may even ask him if there were any negatives other sees it needs to change ..Flexibility and so-called emotional Baltlon .. Is important, you must place it in mind .. So as to be able to show praise and appreciation and acknowledgment, if necessary (no flattery or exaggeration) .. And not to prolong the stability and rigidity to the case of an emotional one .. But must learn to express the importance of the moments of anger and distress quickly.And remember that the Prophet peace be upon him was to control his great ability and his troubles .. And Abu Dawood and women from Abu Musa that the Prophet peace be upon him if he feared some people said: "Oh God, make you Nhoarham in, and we seek refuge" with all of the evils
