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| On Consequences for breaking your promises |
On Consequences for breaking your promises
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Question from audience: You say that we should make our promises and issues public, because it makes it lighter. But some things can’t be made public, right?
o Lauren’s response: Wrong!
o Example: Lauren’s sister is doomsday. She has a negative internal monologue about the likelihood for successes.
o Example: Lauren’s marriage. She’s not allowed to have a fantasy of a guy past 30 seconds. Else she owes a confession to her entire company.
• As a result, she has never cheated.
o But you need to have integrity called “I tell on myself.” No pity party and lying to yourself.
o The only way out is to figure out you can.
o If you were getting paid for every time you went to the gym, would you go?
• You’d be collecting.
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Example: We are rats, and always try to get around our promises.
o Be vigilant of what plan you want to follow, and figure out rules to prevent the rat. After a few iterations, you’ll have it figured out.
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Stop waiting to obey promises until you are a good person. That will never happen.
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Have fun with it.
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Example: Lauren doesn’t like manicures. But the mind is available for authoring whatever you want. She could like manicures.
o Do these things ever become automatic? Like a “just do it?”
o Vices will always be there. It’s a lifelong struggle.
o Lauren doesn’t feel bad about her nails. She just battles with them.
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Example: “I’m not a morning person”
o Not true.
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Question from audience: You say that we should make our promises and issues public, because it makes it lighter. But some things can’t be made public, right?
o Lauren’s response: Wrong!
o Example: Lauren’s sister is doomsday. She has a negative internal monologue about the likelihood for successes.
o Example: Lauren’s marriage. She’s not allowed to have a fantasy of a guy past 30 seconds. Else she owes a confession to her entire company.
• As a result, she has never cheated.
o But you need to have integrity called “I tell on myself.” No pity party and lying to yourself.
o The only way out is to figure out you can.
o If you were getting paid for every time you went to the gym, would you go?
• You’d be collecting.
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Example: We are rats, and always try to get around our promises.
o Be vigilant of what plan you want to follow, and figure out rules to prevent the rat. After a few iterations, you’ll have it figured out.
•
Stop waiting to obey promises until you are a good person. That will never happen.
•
Have fun with it.
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Example: Lauren doesn’t like manicures. But the mind is available for authoring whatever you want. She could like manicures.
o Do these things ever become automatic? Like a “just do it?”
o Vices will always be there. It’s a lifelong struggle.
o Lauren doesn’t feel bad about her nails. She just battles with them.
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Example: “I’m not a morning person”
o Not true.
o Once you realize you have a choice, then you can choose. But you must break through your excuses first.
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You’re living in the repercussions of your excuses.
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If you go off of autopilot, then your whole paradigm comes crashing down around you.
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Creativity is the underlying goal
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Oprah took abused, poor, fat and made it beautiful.
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She authored the whole thing.
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You’re living in the repercussions of your excuses.
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If you go off of autopilot, then your whole paradigm comes crashing down around you.
•
Creativity is the underlying goal
•
Oprah took abused, poor, fat and made it beautiful.
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She authored the whole thing.
