Do not be nice too ..!!..
Always try to do what others expect from you,? And careful not to hurt their feelings,? Quick to help friends and relatives When they need you .. And avoid harassment, even if provoked anger,?
If you are a nice person The love and care that people describe you so However, if the depth of thinking in the Slot (Nice) You'll discover that in many Behaviors are often (Defeatist) If she says yes When he should say no, Otttazahr calm When you are angry, Or resort to lie Because you fear hurting the feelings of others, The burdens on your energy So as not to embarrass someone dear to you. Ie you in order to maintain To deal with others Graciously Committed many errors That may affect in a negative way On your business and social relationships. One of the biggest mistakes Which it is located from a By amenity Is a tendency to perfection Which places great pressure upon, And requires strenuous effort to prove him self, And carry out various tasks to the fullest, Permanent as well as the satisfaction of others. We must clarify here that the attempt to Access of perfection In itself is not a defect But become error When they lead you to develop realistic standards for yourself, Or what shall not incur toll of effort, time, or money, Or when it becomes an obsession to the point hinder your performance for your business. The first step to correct this error is the belief (And not just repeating words) That there is a complete and accept the shortcomings you have, After that comes the realization that perfection is not the way Sole possession of the acceptance of others. Besides the trend of perfection there Other errors Located where people are so nice on a daily basis, including: Commitments to greater than your energy Usually without feeling Aoukana kindness in trouble, Either to say no to a loved one asks us anything We feel selfish guilt, Or try to do whatever is asked of us Vnstanzv our energy. Not to say what you want And may resort to it because you think it is socially inappropriate, Or do not want to be seen as weak, Or fear of rejection or do not want to cause embarrassment to those you love. In each case, the non-disclosure of your feelings and your needs and what you want to suppress for the sake of others will lead you to the mental illness and organic may also dissipate the features of your personality. Suppression of anger Intention here is to keep his nerve While that is boiling inside you the result you Astglalalachrin Or abuse of your feelings which is a kind of forgery And lying to self and others, And the call to not suppress your anger does not mean never to rise up like a volcano, all you have to appear to others that such conduct Do not even bother repeated. Evasion of the truth In order to be nice always You are often shy away from telling the truth So as not to embarrass others But that does not help you does not benefit them, You speak the truth with humility and sensitivity. For example: If your wife asked you what you think about Chinese potato That you do not like Do not have to lie and say it was fantastic, There is no need also to be rude and say they were bad, You can even answer that you usually like potatoes from her hand But this time the taste was slightly different. And so may be out of the impasse with minimal losses. Cute people Often do things that others expect of them, And trying to satisfy their requirements, without hurt feelings, And without losing their nerve. When attacked by others without prudence, Maintain their kindness and calm. Is that these people are cute as brilliant In the disposition of these good intentions, and to help others, They spoke and acted all this remarkable level of tact, After getting the sense that fatigue, frustration and low self-esteem.These behaviors which are used by people cute In good faith and in a manner familiar to them, affect the way Counterproductive to their relationships, and extract joy from life. Day after the object of these behaviors on our way, Hit us mad, and steal, and let valuable time and energy Are the most precious thing we have, Summarizes these behaviors nine errors Counter-productive, Is worthwhile because we just Altfkerualjhd We can stop do: • To free ourselves from the obligation to What others expect of us, which we are not convinced about. • to say: No, when necessary, And pure ourselves with what can not tolerate. • to tell others what we want from them, and actually we receive.
• to express our anger in a medication, and maintain our relationship. • to respond effectively when people attack us Or criticize us without reason. • to tell the truth when our friends let us down. • to care for others without bearing the burden of trying to manage their lives. • to help our friends and our loved ones who tend To destroy themselves to regain their mental health. • to feel Bohlitna, and Nfna when facing pain, and sadness. It is well known that women Experiencing social pressures Than men to suffer not Atifat, And that most people believe that men Do not have the same level of kindness of women, But whether you're a nice guy or nice woman It is likely that you repeatedly fall into these errorsNine, which caused your injury.
