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Accept Who You Are and Who You Can Be
You can’t be a true magnetic attraction if, at the first sign of stress or trouble, you give up on yourself and fold up.
Being a magnetic person means so much, much more than merely looking sexy and confident! It goes beyond having an effervescent or pleasing personality.
You must have a strong core character.
Personality vs. character Personality is just a particular combination of personal likes and dislikes (i.e. clothes, music, food, hobbies) or a preferred range of emotions and behavior (i.e. being bubbly or vivacious; or being formal and reserved). If we were to describe what a particular person is like, we usually that person in terms of outward personality features. However, it says very little about the inner character of that person.
Character is who you are and what you stand for. It’s about the quality of your spirituality, your integrity, and inner strength. What do you value? What are the things you believe are good, and how far are you willing to go to uphold and defend what you believe in? Your answers to these questions summarize your character.
You could have a very flashy, bright personality, yet be weak in character. Or, someone could seem quiet and sedate, but have a steely tenacity. While looking beautiful and acting confident does help you gain other people’s admiration, it’s the quality of your character that makes them stay long after the first throes of attraction.
To become truly attractive, you need to work on having a strong character first. Don’t worry too much about developing a pleasing, amusing personality—if you focus on developing a strong character, a great personality will spring naturally from it, no problem. Think of character as the foundation of what makes you handsome or beautiful. If you’re not a strong, beautiful character within, no matter how physically gorgeous or amiable you are on the outside, when the going gets tough you’ll crack and an ugly side of you will develop! The foundation of a beautiful character But what creates a strong and beautiful character? The foundation of such a character lies in two principles:
a.) An unbreakable belief in the good within one’s self. You must believe in your own worth as a person. Believing in the good you can contribute to the world and to others means you are willing to work hard to bring that good out. You will not let anything (or anyone) prevent or abuse the good you can give.
You won’t let yourself get lazy or presumptuous about how good you are, either. It’s being good and realistic about your own self.
b.) A deep respect and empathy for life in general and the dignity of other human beings. Your respect and empathy for life and other people must run as deeply as your own selfrespect.
Self-respect and respect for others go hand-in-hand, and you can’t have one without the other. You must be willing to help others realize their own goodness. And just like selfrespect, your respect for others will lead you to abhor any form of abuse or laziness that will diminish other people’s capacity to be good.
If it all sounds like a restatement of the age-old Golden Rule, it is. It’s that ancient wisdom that should form the foundation of what’s universally considered attractive in a human being.
Can you imagine how someone can be considered truly attractive without a character deeply rooted in these two principles? You really can’t. Think about a few physically attractive people you know in your own life, who seem to display a lack of one or both of these principles—and you’ll see what I mean!
Of course, a gorgeous stud or bombshell with a “winning” personality will always grab the attention of people they meet for the first few hours. But a few days (or dates) later, if they don’t have the right character, people either get tired of them or see them as two-dimensional caricatures. Unless you are perfectly content to live with that kind of shallow attention from people for the rest of your life (which I doubt), you’re going to have to dig much deeper.
So, ground yourself in the truth contained in these two principles.
You can’t be a true magnetic attraction if, at the first sign of stress or trouble, you give up on yourself and fold up.
Being a magnetic person means so much, much more than merely looking sexy and confident! It goes beyond having an effervescent or pleasing personality.
You must have a strong core character.
Personality vs. character Personality is just a particular combination of personal likes and dislikes (i.e. clothes, music, food, hobbies) or a preferred range of emotions and behavior (i.e. being bubbly or vivacious; or being formal and reserved). If we were to describe what a particular person is like, we usually that person in terms of outward personality features. However, it says very little about the inner character of that person.
Character is who you are and what you stand for. It’s about the quality of your spirituality, your integrity, and inner strength. What do you value? What are the things you believe are good, and how far are you willing to go to uphold and defend what you believe in? Your answers to these questions summarize your character.
You could have a very flashy, bright personality, yet be weak in character. Or, someone could seem quiet and sedate, but have a steely tenacity. While looking beautiful and acting confident does help you gain other people’s admiration, it’s the quality of your character that makes them stay long after the first throes of attraction.
To become truly attractive, you need to work on having a strong character first. Don’t worry too much about developing a pleasing, amusing personality—if you focus on developing a strong character, a great personality will spring naturally from it, no problem. Think of character as the foundation of what makes you handsome or beautiful. If you’re not a strong, beautiful character within, no matter how physically gorgeous or amiable you are on the outside, when the going gets tough you’ll crack and an ugly side of you will develop! The foundation of a beautiful character But what creates a strong and beautiful character? The foundation of such a character lies in two principles:
a.) An unbreakable belief in the good within one’s self. You must believe in your own worth as a person. Believing in the good you can contribute to the world and to others means you are willing to work hard to bring that good out. You will not let anything (or anyone) prevent or abuse the good you can give.
You won’t let yourself get lazy or presumptuous about how good you are, either. It’s being good and realistic about your own self.
b.) A deep respect and empathy for life in general and the dignity of other human beings. Your respect and empathy for life and other people must run as deeply as your own selfrespect.
Self-respect and respect for others go hand-in-hand, and you can’t have one without the other. You must be willing to help others realize their own goodness. And just like selfrespect, your respect for others will lead you to abhor any form of abuse or laziness that will diminish other people’s capacity to be good.
If it all sounds like a restatement of the age-old Golden Rule, it is. It’s that ancient wisdom that should form the foundation of what’s universally considered attractive in a human being.
Can you imagine how someone can be considered truly attractive without a character deeply rooted in these two principles? You really can’t. Think about a few physically attractive people you know in your own life, who seem to display a lack of one or both of these principles—and you’ll see what I mean!
Of course, a gorgeous stud or bombshell with a “winning” personality will always grab the attention of people they meet for the first few hours. But a few days (or dates) later, if they don’t have the right character, people either get tired of them or see them as two-dimensional caricatures. Unless you are perfectly content to live with that kind of shallow attention from people for the rest of your life (which I doubt), you’re going to have to dig much deeper.
So, ground yourself in the truth contained in these two principles.
