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| Finding the Contrasting Thought and Deciding What You Want Instead |
Finding the Contrasting Thought and Deciding What You Want Instead
With the resistance gone, you can allow the anger to run its course. Now you can listen to your self-talk to determine what you were thinking that created the contrast. Sometimes the thought is so obvious – it is such a common thought pattern – that it is hard to recognize.
It's just so hard for me to imagine that people can be like that. That guy saw that I was cut off and just took advantage of the situation. My boss did the same thing. He knew I was coming by the store and he knew I wouldn't refuse. My boss took advantage of me. That jerk took advantage of me. It seems like everyone takes advantage of me.
With the resistance gone, you can allow the anger to run its course. Now you can listen to your self-talk to determine what you were thinking that created the contrast. Sometimes the thought is so obvious – it is such a common thought pattern – that it is hard to recognize.
It's just so hard for me to imagine that people can be like that. That guy saw that I was cut off and just took advantage of the situation. My boss did the same thing. He knew I was coming by the store and he knew I wouldn't refuse. My boss took advantage of me. That jerk took advantage of me. It seems like everyone takes advantage of me.
