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| Psychological Reversal |
Psychological Reversal
Put simply, a psychological reversal occurs when a person subconsciously believes there is more reason to keep an emotional pattern than to release it. This problem is common in people who have addictions or are trying to release body weight. Smokers rarely really want to quit. They typically use the habit to suppress a feeling such as anger, guilt, shame, or sadness. Suppressing the emotion is actually more important than their concern over the health threat of smoking.
Another example is the woman who overeats to become unattractive so she won’t be sexually harassed. She wants to lose weight to become attractive, but subconsciously she associates attractiveness with vulnerability to the pain of harassment. In order to avoid the pain, she will not allow the EFT to work.
Often I give people a homework of repeating the set-up statement. I may have them repeat the statement 3 times a day or more for three weeks.
Even though I really don’t want to lose this comfortable, protective weight, I deeply and
completely accept myself.
Even though I really don’t want to stop smoking, I deeply and completely accept myself.
This idea - that a behavior has hidden, underlying causes - brings up a couple more key concepts that must be addressed if you are not getting the results you are looking for: core issues and aspects.
Put simply, a psychological reversal occurs when a person subconsciously believes there is more reason to keep an emotional pattern than to release it. This problem is common in people who have addictions or are trying to release body weight. Smokers rarely really want to quit. They typically use the habit to suppress a feeling such as anger, guilt, shame, or sadness. Suppressing the emotion is actually more important than their concern over the health threat of smoking.
Another example is the woman who overeats to become unattractive so she won’t be sexually harassed. She wants to lose weight to become attractive, but subconsciously she associates attractiveness with vulnerability to the pain of harassment. In order to avoid the pain, she will not allow the EFT to work.
Often I give people a homework of repeating the set-up statement. I may have them repeat the statement 3 times a day or more for three weeks.
Even though I really don’t want to lose this comfortable, protective weight, I deeply and
completely accept myself.
Even though I really don’t want to stop smoking, I deeply and completely accept myself.
This idea - that a behavior has hidden, underlying causes - brings up a couple more key concepts that must be addressed if you are not getting the results you are looking for: core issues and aspects.
